The divorced male phenomenon in Negril

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Originally Posted by Lola

LivinInThe603, Babelew was referring to her 'hotel complex' where she stays in Negril.

My first couple long stays required managing many details and adjustments but once I knew I wanted to continue and found a suitable apartment to rent year-round, that became my home. I have family and interests in the US that I visit otherwise, I'd apply for Residency in Jamaica. It is the US part that is 'complex' ha ha.

RonMon, you sound concerned about loneliness at the idea of coming to Negril solo but actually, it puts you in a great position for a fresh start in many ways. You will be more challenged regarding boundaries with people, than in being lonely. :)

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When I said "complex", I meant the "complex" you described in your post, it was unrelated to anyone else's post..... I didn't think complicated was the right word, rather Complex, as it would be an intricate set of situations to take care of if you wanted to move full or part time. Sorry for the misunderstanding- tone never carries in text!

Haha, didn't know you were referring my post lol. :p

I'm so confused.. I wasn't referring to anyone's post... Just my own thoughts...

I was investigation getting a work permit and applying for visa last year but it was very complex and didn't seem likely that I'd ever get hired in JA. I was disappointed but understand that they would want Jamican people working, given any opportunity (rather than hire a foreign person to do the same job).

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Originally Posted by Lola

LivinInThe603, Babelew was referring to her 'hotel complex' where she stays in Negril.

My first couple long stays required managing many details and adjustments but once I knew I wanted to continue and found a suitable apartment to rent year-round, that became my home. I have family and interests in the US that I visit otherwise, I'd apply for Residency in Jamaica. It is the US part that is 'complex' ha ha.

RonMon, you sound concerned about loneliness at the idea of coming to Negril solo but actually, it puts you in a great position for a fresh start in many ways. You will be more challenged regarding boundaries with people, than in being lonely. :)

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I have a friend that has a condo in Little Bay CC, he pretty much eluded to the same thing, the relationships you develop can make or break the vibe.

Thanks for your comment!

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Originally Posted by Lola

LivinInThe603, Babelew was referring to her 'hotel complex' where she stays in Negril.

My first couple long stays required managing many details and adjustments but once I knew I wanted to continue and found a suitable apartment to rent year-round, that became my home. I have family and interests in the US that I visit otherwise, I'd apply for Residency in Jamaica. It is the US part that is 'complex' ha ha.

RonMon, you sound concerned about loneliness at the idea of coming to Negril solo but actually, it puts you in a great position for a fresh start in many ways. You will be more challenged regarding boundaries with people, than in being lonely. :)

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Well said Lola

Stitch and btch...wow good thing a woman said that. Had I uttered that even in jest with some of the women that were with me tonight - they would have sliced and diced me and fed me to the birds. Mouth now closed and not a peep coming out of this mouth.

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Originally Posted by JitterBug

relax, where is your sense of humour?

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I didn't really find the term "ragamuffin" humourus...very insulting definition. In defence of some of the retirees and snowbirds down here...I can't think of one I would call "ragamuffin".
The rest of your statement is accurate in many different respects.

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Originally Posted by Lola

LivinInThe603, Babelew was referring to her 'hotel complex' where she stays in Negril.

My first couple long stays required managing many details and adjustments but once I knew I wanted to continue and found a suitable apartment to rent year-round, that became my home. I have family and interests in the US that I visit otherwise, I'd apply for Residency in Jamaica. It is the US part that is 'complex' ha ha.

RonMon, you sound concerned about loneliness at the idea of coming to Negril solo but actually, it puts you in a great position for a fresh start in many ways. You will be more challenged regarding boundaries with people, than in being lonely. :)

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lola, i like your statement about "boundries" . . . well said . . .

About "ragamuffin"....for me it is a term of endearment. This past summer, my daughter, a 25 year old free spirited kindergarten teacher from Vermont, was visiting my mother (her grandmother).She was wearing her usual "hippie" garb that looked very similar to the type of flowing clothes that were worn in the 60s. My mother's comment: "You look like a ragamuffin - just like your Dad." I took it as a compliment - my daughter wasn't so sure!

Lol, Sabu...I understand your daughter's feelings...more so now.
To refer to someone in Jamaica as a ragamuffin is simply insulting...not a term of endearment. It's used to describe a dishevelled, down and out, street thug type of person...I've never heard a Jamaican use this word kindly.