Persuasion or Manipulation skills required!!!

Hi all,
We were last in Negril in December where I became an "honest woman" AKA got my single status ripped from underneath me........oops I meant married! I had a wonderful two weeks there, i have fallen in love with the place. We've only been twice.
Basically, I've travelled a lot, majority of Europe, most of South Africa, Mexico & many islands in the Caribbean, parts of the old South West Africa etc etc. Hubby has been to Greece and Spain, Negril. Basically, hubby is now saying, "I don't want to go back to Jamaica again just yet, I want to try somewhere new!" This isn't the same idea that I have in mind! I want to go back to Negril, ASAP.
I wondered, have any of you fine people been in a similar situation with your better halves? If so, how did you, if you did, manage to persuade them? I am prepared to go to semi extreme lengths to get what I want. However, divorce isn't an option!

Professional manipulation here is paramount ;)

Hahaha I've so been there before!... Wifey is always saying that...

I recommend first looking for deals to JA then compare your awesome deal to the worst flight/deal you can find for his location. Point out all the money you could be saving... Point out everything horrible that you possibly muster up about their location. (Mexico is too dangerous, the conversion rate in EU is horrible, Costa Rica is too long of a flight, etc.)

I also make empty promises that "sure we'll go there maybe next year"... That might buy you some time. Of course you have to trickle in trips to their wanted destinations, occasionally. But that's later, much later

last technique used... Just pay for everything. It's hard to say no to going to jamrock when it's 100% paid for.

I hope this helps, good luck!

Oh yah, We have to alternate. Last year Bali. But even 10,000 km away Jamaica calls me. This pic comes from Ubud Indonesia. Great trip, but Negril is in my heart.Attachment 35421

Point out how much you love Jamaica. List what you love about it. The natural beauty, the weather, the foliage, the sand, the water, the sunsets, the food, the clean fresh drinking water, the people, the friendships, the music, the vibes, the experience of arriving stressed out and eventually letting go of northern angsts, wearing scant clothing and shoes, the fruit drinks, the magic of the cliffs, etc. If your guy prefers to skip Jamaica and explore other geographic regions, go with him on these new adventures--tell him you love him and would prefer going to Jamaica with him, but it this is a place that is important to you. Then, schedule your own annual trip to Jamaica, perhaps go with a friend.

Well looks like we have another one hooked. I know the feeling and you just have to do it. Go with or without him if possible. I am going on my 3rd trip in 8 months and have been going for 25 yrs now but it did cause for divorce to my 2nd husband. We all have choice's in life

Divorce was my only option.............but damn I'm having fun now!!!!!!!

Muzikdoc,, LOL!! My sentiments exactly !!
Sazo,, you going solo, hmmmmm. You might want to have hubby you tube '' Eddie Murphy Raw, full Bahama story.''
Just kidding of course, warning; if anyone is offended easy, please don't watch !!!:)
Your a Newleywed, hubby will soon find out, happy wife, happy life.!!!

Hello SazO! Congrats on the recent nuptials!

I would suggest letting this board do some of your work for you. Let him read all of the posts that express some of your same sentiments. There is certainly no shortage on here.

We love to discuss "other" destinations with fellow travelers every time we reach. I can honestly say that I have never heard any one of them say that they like a different place better than Negril. I love to hear all of the long timers say that they tried this place or that place but every time it always ends up with "but it's just NOT the same as here and that's why we always come back". It's just great advice that we have taken very seriously. :cool:

If your husband is like most men there are certain things that you can do that will make him do whatever you want to do :) Just saying.

Hi Saz- Met you on the pub crawl last year. I am addicted to Negril as well. After 15 years of marriage I have been able to obtain a long enough leash to go either by myself or with my buddy. My wife has different tastes in travel- so she takes trips with her friends and we travel together for family excursions. The trick is building a strong enough and trusting enough relationship that both parties are cool with the arrangement. I'm heading back this December for another solo week of chillin' in Negril.

I'm the one that doesn't want to go to Jamaica for every trip and would rather head to new places. Jamaica, and Negril in particular, is just an easy vacation that takes very little planning or thouhgt. I prefer more adventure than what I get at the some place every year.
And Big Shiny n Mango, I'm an old timer that has found other places I like just as well as Negril, such as Sacred Valley, Peru, Galapagos, Costa Rica and parts of Mexico. Some are too expensive to go on a regular schedule and others just as afordable as Jamaica. We have been to the Yucatan at least a half dozen times and continully visit new towns, ruins, cenotes caves and beaches. When I run out of places to see in the Yucatan I'll head somewhere else with rich history.
Many people let sand gravity take over in Negril, I can do that at the Jersey shore.
Regards,
Bob

I love "sand gravity"! Great expression. Thanks. Your trips sound amazing. I'm so busy teaching, studying, working and traveling every weekend. Love the idea there is one place where I give myself permission once a year to be in one place, doing very little. Then again, I usually spend four hours in the water--playing frisbee, wobobo ball, and just laying in the shallows chatting with friends and watching the beach action. Is there an expression for someone who loves the water?

I love to travel - especially to Europe. I also love Negril. The thing is, life has been so stressful these past couple of years that as much as I want to go back to Europe, we don't have the money or time. Going to Negril is our life saver. We try new restaurants each trip, but other than that, we go because we know it. We can relax, enjoy our favorite places, and not have to think about anything. When we travel to Europe, there is no slowing down; I want to see and experience everything I can!

You and your hubby will find a compromise. Sometimes your soul just needs to relax on the beach, other times it craves new places and cities. If you can afford two vacations a year, make one Jamaica and the other somewhere new!

Just use Negril as yearly staple trip then take an ”adventure trip” later in the year. I totally disagree with rjonsun and the Jersey Shore theory. I live about 170 miles from Ocean City MD. For around the same price as staying at a condo in Ocean City I can go to Negril. It’s a 3 hour plane ride to JA vs a 3 hour car ride to OC. In both cases I’m on the beach noon or 1:00. So why not take in the crystal clear blue water of the Caribbean instead of the dirty Atlantic muck. Not to mention being on the Jersey and Maryland shores reminds me of John Candy in Summer Rental.
As far as “sand gravity” I’m on the move 24/7 at home. When I’m on vacation the last thing I want to be thinking of is a schedule or where I’m headed next. The 16th will be my 18th reach to JA and I am still finding new things to do and places to see. I’m pretty sure even Rob can’t say he’s done it all in JA. It’s a big island..

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Originally Posted by rjonsun

I'm the one that doesn't want to go to Jamaica for every trip and would rather head to new places. Jamaica, and Negril in particular, is just an easy vacation that takes very little planning or thouhgt. I prefer more adventure than what I get at the some place every year.
And Big Shiny n Mango, I'm an old timer that has found other places I like just as well as Negril, such as Sacred Valley, Peru, Galapagos, Costa Rica and parts of Mexico. Some are too expensive to go on a regular schedule and others just as afordable as Jamaica. We have been to the Yucatan at least a half dozen times and continully visit new towns, ruins, cenotes caves and beaches. When I run out of places to see in the Yucatan I'll head somewhere else with rich history.
Many people let sand gravity take over in Negril, I can do that at the Jersey shore.
Regards,
Bob

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Well, there are always a few exceptions. :)
I would like to hear some of your travel stories sometime Mr. Jonsun!
I've always enjoyed the insight and tales from your posts.
BS