Update negril august 2012

I BELIEVE IN MY TUMMY THAT IM MEANT TO FIND FUN NOT RESTRICTIONS WHEN I RETURN TO NEGRIL. I WAS OGING TO STAY SOMEWHERE BUT HAVE BEEN INFORMED BY PAS VISITORS THAT THE OWNER COULD CAQTCH AN ATTITUDE IF I GOD FORBID MET PEOPLE AND WANTED TO BRING THEM BACK TO WHERE IM STAYING.. SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO LOL TIME TO REASSESS ONCE AGAIN! LOCATION LOCATION LOCATION.... NOT LOOKING FOR ALL INCLUSIVE BUT LOOKING FOR NON EXSPENSIVE WHERE IM "ALLOWED" TO MEET PEOPLE LOLOL.... SUGGESTION FELLOW NEGRILIANS?:rolleyes:

Most places you can bring people back but if its over night then you pay a fee as most rooms are for double occupancy and you pay only for yourself so it is only fair they charge you for the extra person tho its not usually to much 20- 25 night

See i wasnt even talking about people staying the night. Im talking just to come sit and have drinks or visit me. But its all good ill keep looking. Thank you for your response becca

Hi Sheba - first thank you for not calling out any certain property as each one has its own way of doing business and deserve the right to run it how they want. That shows real class gyal. It is a struggle for businesses to survive in many cases.

I know its frustrating and I agree people should be free to go where they want. Some properties though keep things private for other guests or may have had bad experiences with too many visitors. Tons of properties to consider though and in my experience "most" I have stayed at allow "guests" as long as they check in the office (at least the first few times). If there is a security guard then usually after a time or two of checking in they will know its cool. But some places are more strict and must have guests sign in. Other places are more informal. So for me anyway Security is #1 so I find places with that and still able to have visitors. I have always had visitors where I stay so I think the majority allow them.

Let us know if you need help on ideas where to stay and is local friendly - just let us know your basic budget and preferences and we will be glad to help you find a wonderful place. ONE LOVE sister.

Hi Sheba--try blue cave castle--they're very cool about visitors, great security-good location-and property has excellent views right on cliffs..Staff are very friendly and Teddy has his restaurant there-great food....Good rates, esp off season...

personally, i don't want unregistered guests wandering through the property that i'm staying at . . . if i wanted that, i'd stay at roots or jah b's . . .

Sorry you took offense Sheba but the part you may of missed with my post was that "IF" it was over night........As the rest said as long as they check in there should be no issues for the most part.Email the places or call and find out.

On the beach I usually stay at Hidden Paradise and it's no problem there...stayed at Catcha Gardens on the cliffs last reach and they were Ok with visitors as well. Hope this helps!

usually if they are Jamaican owned they are usually pretty guest friendly for the most part..............
more upscale a resort is, the less likely they are guest friendly...........
AI's are not guest friendly........a lot of places directly on da beach are not guest friendly........
most places on da Cliffs are guest friendly except for like Caves, Catcha Falling Star, Tensing Pen, etc etc........
be prudent when you have guests in your room as things apt to walk away sometimes so please use dat safe.......lol
even if you think they are going to be your future spouse.........lol

Cool Runnings, Marko

well said marko. thank you.

This is not a general indictment of all travelers who invite virtual strangers into their personal space and, by doing so, into the personal space of others but........

We are incredibly trusting of strangers more so on our brief visits to Jamaica than we are otherwise prone to do so at home. Now, I know some will say.... "I meet people all the time where I live and invite them into my home" but I would counter that a different set of "rules of engagement" are enforced and used before you invite them into the house where you permanently reside.

Your new "best friends" are developed from limited information and a "gut feeling" and for some reason that seems to trump common sense that you probably possess at home.

Remember, the hotel owners LIVE with these "new best friends" 24/7 and are much better judges of their quality and character than your gut. It isn't because the less friendly owners towards the local Jamaicans are necessarily biased towards their fellow occupants of Negril without some good reasons.

I agree with Jitterbug on this that I don't want other people's new "best friends" roaming around where my possessions are kept during my stay at a hotel. I appreciate their efforts in providing me security and I trust them a little more than my "gut feeling" as to who is a good person and who might be there to take advantage of me.

Let me just say that I live in rural Jamaica for much of the year and when I travel, I stay mostly in Jamaican homes and/or visitor-friendly places so I personally have no problem with any of this. But, if I were a "newby" to Jamaica and got a room in a place next to the room of someone who had a lot of their new "best friends" roaming around my door, I would certainly feel my personal space was being violated and the money I paid for the privilege to stay there was not paying for what i had bargained for.


Peace and Guidance.

I would have to agree with you, Accompong. I think it's a good idea to look specifically for those properties that allow it. Personally, I am on the other end of the spectrum. I want to know that my property, and myself, are restricted. Who knows when I may have had one too many Red Stripes....lol

Ok i was about totype a lengthy response. But i want to say just this. Im not a newbie, ive travelled extensively, im not into one night anythings and not looking to hook up with strangers...why would you think its all about sex!? I have friends ive known from all ove rthe whole and that includes jamaicans. Maybe thinking with that dirty mind needs to be washed out cos fun just means being able to cook for friends old and new .... I thank your strong input and information but to those thinking the nasty thoughts seriously get a grip. I thought this was going to be a relaxed forum of information and smiles but wow to how rude some of you have been. Im not looking to meet men, but if i was honestly its no ones business but mine. My only concern was being able to cook and act like a civilized professinal woman that i am... Smh at the insinuations. Im not a person to randomly invited strangers oh and to make it clear the people i met last time where from the uk, australia and canada...... And yes even jamaicans

Sheba, I don't see where anyone accused you of it being "all about sex".
The answers seemed straight up & fair to me.

Gotta agree.
I don't see where anyone in this thread mentioned sex, except you!

Well said folks.

I was talking about folks walking around the property. I'm assuming if they were there for sex then they'd be in someone's room.

So if not a newbie, you dont already know how it works? So what was the point to this post.

Ease up on Sheba. She asked a legitimate question! Sheba, I've stayed at a well known property on the beach that has EXCELLENT secuirty with a girlfriend and it was no problem having our driver friend come in daily to hang out with us, but we did have to sign him in and out everyday, which wasn't a problem for us!

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Originally Posted by flfungal

Ease up on Sheba. She asked a legitimate question! Sheba, I've stayed at a well known property on the beach that has EXCELLENT secuirty with a girlfriend and it was no problem having our driver friend come in daily to hang out with us, but we did have to sign him in and out everyday, which wasn't a problem for us!

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I can't speak for others but I don't feel I was particularly "hard" on Sheba and I think she read a little more into my response than I said. Sometimes the way people interpet written words has to filter through the way they perceive "Reality" in Jamaica before they can properly digest the message.

If I offended anyone with what i wrote, that was not my intention. I live in and love my country; Jamaica. It took me over two decades of immersing myself in her culture before I had any inkling of the true runnings or just what her flex was.

I have just a brief comment on what you wrote, flfungal. Your signature says you stayed at Hedonism, correct? I was wondering if that is the property you were saying had the "EXCELLENT security" and that you had to signin your driver friend each day? If so, I was wondering if he had to pay to come in or if you had to purchase a Day Pass for him to enter?

I have gone to Hedonism a couple of times and I always had to purchase a Day Pass. If that is so, then your experience is quite different than what Sheba was saying she is looking for as she says she wants them to come and go as she pleases. Just curious.

Peace and Guidance

You have misunderstood me accompong i have never said anything about people coming and going as they please. I was simply saying if i meet new friends (world wide origins and local) and wished to invite them to the location i was staying at for dinner and drinks obviously i would be present i would like to be able to. The many times i have travelled to various other locations in jamaica other than negril as well the beautiful world we live in (ranging from australia, asia and indonesia) i have always looked for chances to learn and live making new friends.

Sheba,

Almost every non-AI property/place in Negril will be allow you to invite new people you meet to their bar for drinks or their restaurant for dinner. The exceptions to that rule can be counted on one hand.

But that being said, as Accompong pointed out, the businesses in Negril have vastly more experience with some of these "new friends" than you do. Should a property suggest that someone you have just met (or maybe met on a previous visit) is not welcome on the property, it may be in your best interest to heed such advice. They may have had experience in the past with this "new friend" and know that things sometimes go bad when they are around.

And please be aware that inviting these new friends back to your room for dinner or drinks as opposed to the more public areas like their restaurant and bar, is a much different thing altogether. Any visitor to the island by definition has very limited experience with these new acquaintances they may consider friends, and inviting them to the more private areas is not always a wise thing to do. For those of us who live here in the very small village of Negril (population around 5000), we tend to know who is who and would not feel comfortable with some folks having access to these more private areas.

Because this topic has come up before, and no doubt will again, please know that what I am talking about is not about the property being "anti-Jamaican". In my nearly 20 years living here, I have seen certain visitors to the island not be allowed on some properties as their "antics" have become known to the local business. Remember, just because someone you have just met may be charming or a smooth talker does not mean that they are trustworthy. The English language has defined the terms "con men" and "grifters" because they rely on just such tactics of charm and smooth talking to earn your confidence, and when you drop your guard, they rip you off...

Well said Rob, when I visit friends at their places, I always check-in whether it is a Hello Miss Rose, or to someone at the desk who may not recognise us. We have always been more than welcome to sit on the porch or balcony, but I always try to remember that we are guests, even at our own place I like to show the other guests respect, as we might like to laugh the nite away, others prefer a good nites sleep and are early risers. Cheers!