Hi Shelly.. I agree with everything you are saying, i've only spent 1 new years in jamaica, leaving home the day after christmas. I felt terrible the whole time and told myself that i would never be anyplace but home for the holidays...and didn't understand how anyone else could intentionaly do so..HOWEVER I still feel that Luvsdaislands needs to have some ME time Now. Traditions change and everyone goes with the flow....besides her grands are too young to know what day it is or that gm is not there. Now in a couple of years things will be different and you can go with flow or not....and don't feel guilty about enjoying yourself, YOU deserve it!! IMHO.