Awesome birthday gift! Congrats! So happy for you both!

I would say you have picked the top 3 cliff properties, IMO
So can't go wrong no matter what choice you make, but my choice would be Catcha, I'm partial though as it is my all time favorite....but yes you can visit the bar or have dinner or even lunch there even if not a guest
And really in November is low season so you probably could even ask for a tour of the rooms that are open...we did that once, that way you can get an idea of the place and the rooms and maybe stay there on your next trip