because my comment was anecdotal, not a blanket statement -- i was not speaking about "all" people - the same circumstances are not true for "every" person.
both statements can exist at the same time when we are speaking of MANY people -- some get here and love it, immerse into the lifestyle, and are hugely successful and happy. And some get here and discover it does not meet with the perception/expectations, and they realize they had a better quality of life BEFORE they came here. Those are the ones who prefer to return home when they discover America is not what they thought it would be. exactly the same dynamic that you describe in your 2nd paragraph - but in reverse. and that can be said for emigrants to ALL countries of the world -- some ppl blend and love it, some don't, and realize they were happier back home, the grass ISN'T always greener. and those are the ones who don't stay.
all i'm saying - and anecdotally relating some examples i personally know of - is that it's only after people experience it for themselves, can they really "get it" that the USA isn't the 'brass ring' they had been told all their lives that it was; that this dynamic exists, and that it plays a part in the subject matter of this topic. i never said i think it's this way for 'all' people, 'all' the time, in 'all' circumstances.






