GREAT report!
GREAT report!
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January 2012 Brasi Trip Report # 14
A Lunch Break Conversation/Interlude with a Bartender in Negril
One of the most obvious differences between Jamaica and where I live is the blatant sexuality and interplay between men and women in Jamaica, both foreign and yardis alike. A lot of this, in my opinion, is due to the benefits "hooking up" represent for both sides. But also, I believe that in Jamaica things are much more open and honest. From hookers to regular women looking for some companionship...it seems what is said is what is meant. There is not a lot of beating around the bush.
The following conversation only represents one opinion, but it is a discussion I had with a young Jamaican woman, age 28, who just so happens to be married to a guy that lives near me here in the States and who is 42 years old.
After discovering this coincidence, I asked her how she met her husband (she was working at Riu. She is in Jamaica to care for her mother but will be returning to the US soon, she says). She said a few things that I think may be part of the social structure in Jamaica...she seemed to be pretty convicted. Again, not my words, and only one person's opinion...
On dating Jamaican men:
"Jamaican women would often rather be single. We call some of the guys "dirty 5$^^&'s" becuase they will call, tell you to call back so they don't use their minutes. They will ***** and chew about paying for this or that. Many women would much rather be single than date a Jamaican man. And many would rather wait and hope to find a guy from the US or England, maybe Canada, whateer the case, to date because it is seen as a much better situation. Jamaican women want to be independent, or have help in life. They don't want to support a man."
On kissing and public displays of affection:
"There is a thing. Jamaican women often assume that men will have bad breath. So, many prefer not to kiss."
On living in Jamaica, then the US:
"Oh, it was so much faster than here. I was lost a little bit. I came back here and was telling all my friends about how fast it was and they really didn't believe me."
On assumptions when a white man and a black woman are seen together in Jamaica:
"Most of the time it is no problem, unless a girl is known. If she is known then maybe the men on the street will make fun. But lots of times people will be glad, glad that maybe she has a chance at a better life. When I met my husband we took it slow and courted for two years on the phone and during his visits. Soon everyone I knew saw him as the person he was and not the American guy with a lot of money."
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I was eating my lunch at work and remembered this talk. Cool stuff IMHO.
Last edited by brasi; 01-18-2012 at 06:39 PM.
Thank you for your reporting Brasi. I have enjoyed it very much.
The videos were great and it was so nice to be able to put a voice with your face.
Looking forward to more!
Thanks Brasi! I've follow whole report. Very interesting insight into the Jamaican Women's view on tings.
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I've been enjoying your whole trip report. I really liked the entry about the Jamaican woman's perspective and enjoyed the videos
I'm Looking forward to your music video!
P.S. So wait ...it's "Bras-eye" and not "Bras-ee" ?- I always imagined it being pronounced the other way around. haha - good to know!
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HA! That is Exactly what I said when I heard him say it in the video....I was like hmmmmm oh! When I have read it or said it in my head I had always said brasee, so I too, am glad I now have the correct pronunciation!Originally Posted by Clarity
P.S. So wait ...it's "Bras-eye" and not "Bras-ee" ?- I always imagined it being pronounced the other way around. haha - good to know!
Does it mean something? Brasi?
I found he answers to Bra ZEE ....
Brasi Chillin' in Belmond (I find it spelled two different ways...)
Turn the sound up. Woooosh...woooshh...wooosh...
My nickname comes from Livingston "Rasi" Bramble...pron. "Raz-eye"... a Haitian boxer...AND Luca Brasi..."Bra-see"...of the Godfather.
Depends on where ya met me, I guess. Longtime screen name, and a band nickname...as one of my bands was named after the boxer. The band I am in now is named Flakjacket, which according to legend Luca was wearing when his throat was slit...that Flakjacket didn't do him much good. LOL
Long story, see? But either pronunciation works for me...thanks for checking these vids out!
I LOVE my iPhone.
Last edited by brasi; 01-18-2012 at 08:22 PM.
Great videos! I had to laugh reading the conversation you had with the girl. I didn't realize the kissing thing was an issue
"Don't gain the world and lose your soul, wisdom is better than silver and gold" R.N.M
Good job BRASI , I love the videos ..you should be a reporter ....
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