Hard to see how "life does'nt revolve around me" has anything to do with existentialism?? Or why doing "what is good for you or doing what you want" is negative? There is nothing wrong with placing high importance on your own values and what you think is best for you. I guess it can be negative if what you want is neglecting yourself and your family...but I do not think that it what was meant by existentialism. I think most people on this board want what is best for them as well as their loved ones so they live their lives accordingling or to the best of their ability to make that happen.I am kind of shocked that anyone can find a morsel of negativity and create backlash on such a positive thread...oh well, if Rum can get backlash on this love story and the theory of living your life to the fullest, I know I will have to keep my TR off line Thanks Rum for the post, glad you were welcomed by the national bird !