From your first post :
"You may ask, why don’t I go out and get a job?
I would love to.
D says that is fine with him but that he can’t or won’t pay for child care so I would have to pay for it.
Paying for daycare for 2 kids would eat up anything that I made, so what is the point?"

Here's few points - contact with people in the outside world: higher self esteem & sense of self worth: a chance to explore your talents and perhaps develop some new ones; socialization for you and your children; less dependence upon your husband for all of your social, intellectual and emotional needs...

Or when they start pre-K (?) or kindergarten, you could start with volunteer work instead of seeking employment right away. More flexibility to accomodate your children but all of the aforementioned benefits still apply.

PEACE & BLESSINGS.