irie, your husband sounds like he has extreme control issues . . .how did you allow this to get so far out of control? . . . men who control love to isolate their prey(you) . . . nothing is "his" . . . its common property . . . do you got the balls to do legal stuff? he's never going to change, the sooner you get out the better . . . remember, u have a lot of rights you are not excercising because he's convinced you its "his" . . . . the children feel tension in a home . . . why subject them to that? and yourself? lady, take control of your life and safe yourself and your children!!!!

edited to add: never mind the mental abuse he's putting on you . . . with your permission!!