I watched my little sister live through this type of situation...almost identical. Living in the country, he didnt want her to work and only stay home with her 2 girls, etc. What I learned is that you will eventually make change for one of two reasons ...

Either you learn enough that you want to, or you`ve been hurt enough that you have to. People telling you to make change means nothing.....When YOU are ready, change will come...hang in there! Bettah mus come!