You might want to check at Rondel Village. They have mostly everything on your list. I know that they are local friendly and allow you to register friends for day passes, etc. I've had friends come visit me and have dinner/drinks with me at the restaurant, etc. Only thing is that all of the ground floor units are 1 & 2 BR villas. Also, the buildings are a little close, so I'm not sure that you could be guaranteed a lot of privacy on your patio/porch. Security there is fantastic -- if you need them they are there, but don't intrude.