Ouch!!! I'm aware JA is a "hot" place. I've seen enough on it over the years, it would be scary if we hadn't been through so much and know that our interests are not in looking for another partner. We love each other very much. I'm far from a perfect female model. However I'm sure he isn't running away with someone while we r on a vacation for two weeks that he has carefully spent many many hours planing every day. My eyes don't wonder I'm perfectly content with the amazing person that has planned an amazing trip... And A lot of it he has done for me. HOWEVER there are some rather large speed bumps we have to get over. Thank u for the advice Johng. That's kind of a sad story and couldn't imagine that !