TRAIL OF ASHES TOUR: The adventure continues as Gerry G returns to Negril

[rastagirl777]

I've gone back and forth regarding responding to all the "hateful" posts made regarding my, as I look at it, somewhat "hateful" post a page or so ago.

Gerry - I apologize for being harsh. Buttons were pushed for sure.

You see - unlike a lot of you, I am shy about meeting boardies. I seldom do but when I do introductions are made properly and if it is someone I've had a good rapport with online I can sometimes come out of my shell.

Over the past 5 or so years though someone has been "outing" me to complete strangers which has resulted in my discomfort and once with a kind of cyber stalker guy that let himself into my yard. Recently this happened at a wake/memorial I was attending for a good friend...I was with my close friends at a table and someone approached me...telling me that that person who has been "outing" me on a regular basis pointed me out.

I was put in the position of lying to that man as I felt a little freaked and invaded.

So when I was told my name was in your trip report and saw how it was in your trip report - I'm sorry - I lost it. I still wonder why you had that in there but its your trip report.

Lisa: The advise I gave that folks should ask permission before using people's names and photos in these reports I do hope applies to more than just me. I know when I write of my experiences here in the place I love, the place I call home every winter - I'm very careful about that. I am in the business of discretion professionally - and have been for a long while. And you and I agree that sometimes some people look upon the residents of Negril as "characters" and sometimes we are treated as such in writing, photographs and even in person. And it doesn't always feel good.

So, again Gerry, please accept my apologies if I came off as "sanctimonious" or rude. And in the unlikely chance that we do meet - we can buy each other a Pepsi.

[Craig123]

So, again Gerry, please accept my apologies if I came off as "sanctimonious" or rude. And in the unlikely chance that we do meet - we can buy each other a Pepsi.

As my mother always said "It takes a big person to admit their fault". Hats off to you RastaGirl. Big respect.

[Rob]

Over the past 5 or so years though someone has been "outing" me to complete strangers which has resulted in my discomfort and once with a kind of cyber stalker guy that let himself into my yard. Recently this happened at a wake/memorial I was attending for a good friend...I was with my close friends at a table and someone approached me...telling me that that person who has been "outing" me on a regular basis pointed me out.

Rastagirl,

I am glad you came in and apologized to Gerry. I dont feel he meant any harm in his comment.

We do remember that "cyber stalker" incident. We tried to help you with that incident. And from what I can recall, no one outed you. It was the fact that you had posted your "yard" location in such detail on Trip Advisor that the person in question simply followed your descriptions and found the place. We warned you at that time to not post so much personal information on the internet or situations like that are bound to happen. Whether you want to believe it or not, by your prolific posts on the various internet sites that you frequent (like TA with over 8000 posts), you are becoming a bit of a "celebrity". And as you told both me and Lisa - sometimes you just have to "suck it up" and accept it when people post stuff about you on the internet. If that advice applies to me and Lisa, I would have to suppose it would apply to you as well.

As you discovered this summer, when you post mean spirited comments about people who actually live and work in Negril, sometimes even your friends down here will have to stand up and let you know that you are out of line. You seemed very distraught when you had to remove the comments that you made - so please lighten up on others in the future. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone...

[Bnewb]

Over the past 5 or so years though someone has been "outing" me to complete strangers which has resulted in my discomfort and once with a kind of cyber stalker guy that let himself into my yard. Recently this happened at a wake/memorial I was attending for a good friend...I was with my close friends at a table and someone approached me...telling me that that person who has been "outing" me on a regular basis pointed me out.

I'm not sure who else "outed" you at Roy's memorial....but I will apologize for the one and only time I've ever "outed" you...which was to Ras Walleye...I'm sorry you felt you had to lie to him at a "wake/memorial". It was an emotional time as you well know and I did not connect you would hide yourself to a good friend of ours nor someone Roy had known since 1998. I also get confused sometimes when people announce they want the "truth" and then don't participate fully in the truth themselves.
And, as far as outing you on a regular basis...you never have to worry about that from me...nothing would ever be farther from the truth!!!
And, at the time of your "cyber stalker guy"...we were happy to try to help you out!!

Lisa: The advise I gave that folks should ask permission before using people's names and photos in these reports I do hope applies to more than just me. I know when I write of my experiences here in the place I love, the place I call home every winter - I'm very careful about that. I am in the business of discretion professionally - and have been for a long while. And you and I agree that sometimes some people look upon the residents of Negril as "characters" and sometimes we are treated as such in writing, photographs and even in person. And it doesn't always feel good.

Nikki: Yes, I very much agree "that sometimes some people look upon the residents of Negril as "characters"...just as you've done with Rob and I in your not so polite & very public postings.


Forgive me for the interruption...Gerry...please carry on....especially if you keep making such kind comments like that about me!! Thank you!